I am wondering how many parents here have heard this from their children when they are told it's time to get ready for class.

Unfortunately life is just full of things we don't want to do,

I mentioned on another thread here in this forum that if you have to force your kids to class then it's not worth it !  But I want to clarify here. you shouldn't let your child quit after training for only a few months.

That “thing” that sets in. . . that thing that makes it go from just training to a way of life is not instantaneous.

See the thing is ... feeling good about yourself can't be accomplished somewhere between hockey and soccer season. The martial arts are different. It's a heck of a commitment on both the student and the parent’s part, and it takes time to experience. I do see many parents running around crazy because their kids have so many activities and quite honestly both the child and the parent are totally stressed out!  I think 2 activities per week are more than enough including homework and chores (yes chores!)

Over the course of years -- and for some of us, even decades -- we've all come to the crossroads of whether or not to continue our training, probably for a thousand different reasons. But we didn't quit. Aren't you glad you didn't? 

The "activity" of martial arts is one that involves learning skills that will take them through the rest of their lives. They're also discovering that there are great accomplishments waiting to happen when you make even the slightest of effort.

My son was at this crossroads a few months back.  He had just promoted to Red/Double Black and was told that he could not promote to Black for another year.  Our school had changed Masters and Instructors in 3+ years my son has been going and our new Master is not one of those warm and fuzzy instructors.  He is Eastonian and demands discipline and respect.  He does not coddle the children or use compliments.  This led my son to say he wanted to quit.  Well my wife and I discussed this adnausium.  My wife was of the "we shouldn't force him if he doesn't like it any more" mindset.  I was like "he has come this far, he can quit once he reaches BB".  It took a while but I actually was able to pursuade my wife and son to see things my way.  My son wants to return to training because he "misses his friends, the sparring, and the competitions" and to get his BB.  My wife understood that I was trying to teach my son the value of commitment and seeing things through no matter how you feel about the situation. 

Tough situation Linda. 

Sounds a bit like my son was like a few months back.  I had to take off because the Doctor told me "No training".  So he took off too.  I would stop by the Dojang to update my Master on my surgery and just to say hello.  My son was with me most of the time and he wanted to play with his friends.  I told him no.  If he wasn't training, he had no business being out on the mats.  If he wasn't part of the school then he could only be in the lobby.  It's not an easy issue to solve.  You may want to spend some time explaining to your son why learning the Korean is important.  That just like learning to kick is important, so is learning the language of the Art he is studying.  Not grading is not a big deal to me because I don't care about belts.  On the other hand, not taking things seriously bothers me to no end. 

I wish I could be more help...

sometimes, kids need to fail so they can learn and grow

I find that when im consistant they really enjoy it and don't complain to much, i have to give them notice, like today is monday tomarrow is class, and then they are fine,

when im taking a break from training they get lazy and don't want to go back but once they do, they say they missed it and it's good to be back to class,

they also know they have no choice of quitting until they recieve 1st dan, that was the agreement when we signed contracts, plus what example would it be to let them quit the first time it gets hard, of course they want to quit it is alot of hard work not just fun and games, especially once your an advance( red and up).

Im hopefully that when they do recieve there black belts, it will be something they want to continue!!!! I Will