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Frustration - ahhh
Posted On 03/30/2008 13:33:07 by JSB2008
Just come back from training and I feel really riled. I have been working with a young lad the same level as me. All he did for the whole hour was mess about.

I don't know whether I am frustrated with him or myself. How should I handled it? Initially I tried to humour him but eventually I found myself getting really cross. I think that the more he wound me up the more did it.

I used to teach disengaged young people and I believe he has some behavioural issues. I don't go to train with my teacher hat on - I am, and want to be the student. I also don't have the same power as I would as a teacher of a class, so are my hands tied?

Should I have spoken to the instructor or found another way to handle him? I appreciate that attending TKD is good for him but I felt that he was obstructing my learning and my enjoyment of the class.

Sorry to moan. I am sure that I should be more supportive of him but actually felt like doing something else to him...!

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From: JSB2008
04/02/2008 09:41:10
Thank you for your comments. I decided to speak to the senior black belt who took the training and to my instructor. They are aware of how difficult the said student is. I think they tend to put him with a different person each time in training - so probably so no-one has too bigger dose of him! I think my point was noted. 

His poor parents that is all I can say!  


From: melibug
04/02/2008 08:58:43
talk to the man incharge!!!!

From: Linda
04/01/2008 04:21:00
I know what you mean with this
In our club we have several of the younger students who are more disciplined than others and it's incredibly frustrating to watch when they are paired up together.
When this happens with my kids (who train hard) I suggest that they ignore the 'messing about' and concentrate on what they should be doing, they should show our instructor that they can work through it.  Otherwise I suggest they go and use the punch bag!
This may or maynot be of any help, just a suggestion


From: JSB2008
03/31/2008 01:42:12

nathan_barrett wrote:
I would say definitely talk to your instructor, if it is bothering you now chances are it's not just going to suddenly go away, neither is the boys behavior going to change overnight. You will probably end up getting frustrated often in class, and will stop enjoying it as much. I know that as an instructor you can only catch so much of a students behavior and they may not be aware as to how distruptive a students misbehavior may be to others learning. Talk about your desire to learn and what about his behavior prevents you from doing so, also maybe you could try to come up with a solution to propose beforehand as maybe you have a different perspective on dealing with problem behaviors then your Instructor.
Also how old is this young man if he is training in the adult class? Maybe he should be paired up with someone more his maturity and/or mental level...


He is nearly 12. I feel bad because as a mum and a teacher I feel as if I should be able to handle him. I am not the only one who gets frustrated with him, I have often heard another students moaning about how irritating he is. One of the senior black belts took the class last night and he is not as firm as our instructor so his behaviour may have been worse then usual. 

I will keep an eye on the situation - and if it continues I will speak to the instructor.

Thanks very much for your advice it is much appreciated. 


From: nathan_barrett
03/30/2008 15:21:57
I would say definitely talk to your instructor, if it is bothering you now chances are it's not just going to suddenly go away, neither is the boys behavior going to change overnight. You will probably end up getting frustrated often in class, and will stop enjoying it as much. I know that as an instructor you can only catch so much of a students behavior and they may not be aware as to how distruptive a students misbehavior may be to others learning. Talk about your desire to learn and what about his behavior prevents you from doing so, also maybe you could try to come up with a solution to propose beforehand as maybe you have a different perspective on dealing with problem behaviors then your Instructor.
Also how old is this young man if he is training in the adult class? Maybe he should be paired up with someone more his maturity and/or mental level...


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